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Just because you and bae have the same taste in music and a thriving sex life does not necessarily mean you are compatible (is “bae” still cool to say or did I make it weird?). It might feel a lot like love when the person you’re dating is funny, smart, and likes Lizzo as much as you do, but true compatibility means so much more than liking their traits (and who doesn’t like Lizzo!?).
It’s easy to get caught up in romance (there’s a reason they say “love is blind”), but “forever” is a long time to be with one person. Whether you’ve been with someone for a week, married for 20 years, or are single and ready to mingle, here’s how to know if a relationship is truly compatible.
They make you feel calm
There’s a lot of romantic imagery against this very sentiment (like “the heart pounds” or “knees go weak”), but I’d like to make a case that butterflies are bullsh*t. Yes, you should be excited to see your partner (more on that below), but you shouldn’t feel nervousness or anxiety. Despite fighting and relationship disagreements, a compatible partner will give you inner peace and make you feel safe.
You both can be brutally honest
Do you feel like you can be yourself with your partner? Are you able to openly communicate, or do you hold some things back to spare their feelings or avoid a fight? Would you judge, ridicule, or look down on your partner for anything they’d say or do? Read more “You know what you want out of life, and your partner is the best person to help you achieve it”